Gay Men’s Relationships
Written by CockyRadio on 09/01/2019
Gay male couples tend to approach sex differently.
We all know that gay male couples are much more likely to entertain the idea of, or even be in, a non-monogamous relationship. Part of this is cultural and historical; part of this is the nature of men’s sexuality in general (hey, truth be told, many more straight men would be non-monogamous if given the opportunity by their wives and some (just like gay men) take that prerogative even if it’s directly violating a monogamy agreement.
Gay men are much more likely, in general, to only “not” be appalled at the idea of another person (man) having sex with their partner/spouse, but to be turned on by it. Gay men have a greater capacity (in general) for “sport sex,” and less about foreplay; they can separate sex from love more easily.
Without a woman’s particular sexual makeup in the equation, it changes the sexual equation. You really can’t directly compare a straight couple’s sex life with a gay male couple’s sex life. Some things just don’t “translate” culturally, physically, socially, emotionally, etc.
By validating to a gay male couple that their sex life must be discussed not only “apart” of any heteronormative expectations, but also independently of even other gay male relationships they might know of, the couple can be reassured that the decisions and practices they make are unique and customized to them.
There is no one proper “cookie-cutter” sex life for gay male couples that fits all.
While this is also true for straight couples, issues of monogamy, frequency, type of sex, the “vanilla-versus-kink” spectrum, BDSM, and even time management discussions differ. While this is not necessarily unique to gay men, a big factor can be finding time for sex, when often both partners are busy, high-level executives or professionals who work extraordinarily long hours or have jobs that require frequent travel.